Friday, December 4, 2009

Food Friday - Panda Restaurant in Springdale

As you might imagine, I didn't feel much like cooking during my third trimester. And as much as HB tried, his repetoire was limited. So we had takeout....a lot.

Since we moved here, we have been trying to find a chinese restaurant that stacks up to the ones we used to go to in Massachusetts. We frequented Bamboo in Westford and Feng Shui in Chelmsford and various other establishments staffed with authentic chinese chefs and staff from Chinatown in Boston. Panda Restaurant is the closest we have found. And to top it all off, it's cheap!

Although they have seating, Panda is best for takeout as the seating is cheap plastic chairs and tables and it is small although very very clean. We usually each get a combo plate and an order of chicken fingers. Total cost is under $20.00 and we have enough for dinner that night and lunch the next day. Each combo ranges from $5 to $8 and comes with one of the best egg rolls I have ever had and a mountain of fried rice. The food is always incredibly hot and each meal is made fresh to order.

Panda Restaurant in Springdale = highly recommended!

Thursday, December 3, 2009

My Push Present

It is customary here in the FC to receive a "push" present from your significant other around the time of the birth of your child. Most women request jewelry. But, as most of you know, I am not most women. Although diamonds are lovely and pearls are great, I don't wear a lot of them and I have all that I need thanks to gifts from HB over the last eight years.

So what was I graced with? A new iPhone! I could wax rhapsodic about all the features and apps and things like that but you have seen the commercials, you know it can do everything but scratch your back.

HB presented me with mine a few weeks before the baby was born after I told him about a great breastfeeding app that a friend of mine had recommended that kept track of which side you nursed on and for how long, both of which are very important in the ongoing nutrition of BB. After BB came, I used that app to keep track of all kinds of other things too including dirty diapers, baths, naps, etc. Lack of sleep makes it impossible to actual remember these things on your own.

But the best thing about the iPhone? It allowed me to quickly and easily keep in touch with the real world, a post-baby necessity especially when you can't drive :) Best push present ever....


Fallout

Getting back to blogging hasn't gone as smoothly as it should. Apparently, certain people feel I should be allowed to be honest and say what is on my mind. In my opinion, if you don't like what I have to say, you don't have to read it. Regardless, I edited my last post at HB's request and my blog will be public again soon.

When all is said and done, my feelings have been hurt repeatedly by the same person over the last several years. I don't deserve that. But things don't change quickly so I best get used to it right?

I will be starting another, completely honest blog that will be by invitation only with a friend of mine who has similar problems to write about. If you would like an invite, leave me a comment letting me know.

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Censorship

Yup, I have been censored. By HB. No more links of the blog to facebook. No more unfettered complaining about the things and people that irk me the most. I may just have to make my blog private so that I can go back to being me but I am not even sure how that works or how new readers would find the hilarity and inanity that is me.

So I put it out to you, dear readers, would you rather I be private and honest or public and censored?

Things I Learned: Part 2

Continuing with the list of things I have learned thus far - just the top ten though, don't worry......

6. Breastfeeding is great. But, if after you have cut everything out of your diet and are losing weight at an alarming rate such that you are beginning to look and feel like a refugee from a third world country and your baby is still screaming night and day, it's time to stop. Try to realize this before I did. It took me ten weeks of pure hell.

7. Formula is great. But boy, does it smell! And not only does the actual formula smell, but BB could now clear a room with his farts. Don't even get HB started on the diaper stench. He actually had to leave the room earlier this week when I cracked open BB's diaper....

8. You do not need to buy the Born Free bottles just because everyone says they are fabulous. At almost $10.00 each with nipples that need to be replaced every two months at the cost of around $3.50 each, do yourself a favor and buy something cheap. Does your child really need $100.00 of bottles? Save your money for diapers. There is no difference between those and any others in terms of the air that gets into your new baby's lungs. Not to mention that it takes a legit rocket scientist and an industrial size dishwasher to figure out all of the parts and wash them frequently enough for use. Plus, daycare will hate you.

9. Babies are full of gas. It comes out all ends. Or it doesn't come out and they scream....and scream.....and scream....and you try everything. You find yourself praying that your child will just fart and bargaining with a higher power for just one little toot. People will tell you that X, Y, or Z (Mylicon, Gripe Water or Maalox) will help and when it doesn't, they will assume you didn't take their advice or administer it correctly and stop talking to you. Which is, often, a blessing (see number 1).

10. Babies don't have colic anymore. They have GERD. They have reflux. They have dairy allergies. They have soy allergies. But they DO NOT have colic. Don't try and tell your pediatrician that it is just a bit of colic. It will just cause an unnecessary argument.

Overall, every baby is different. The faster the people around you realize this, the better your life with baby will be. But, uh, yeah, good luck with that.....

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Things I Learned

Since having BB, I have learned a lot about babies and parenting. How could I not? Here's a top five with five more to follow tomorrow:

1. As my husband says, opinions are like assholes. Everyone's got one and they all stink. Once you have a baby, people think it is their holy duty to share their opinions about everything you are doing wrong on a constant basis. I thought the biggest offender on this one would be MD but I have a feeling she recalls getting lots of unwanted opinions when Little Bro and I were born. She was great - gave advice when asked but otherwise went along with what I wanted. Not so much for some others in our life.....no names mentioned here to protect, well, me.

2. Breastfeeding is great. But it hurts. A lot. And after you get over the first week of extreme pain, there are things to worry about like thrush, clogged ducts and mastitis. Not to mention what it feels like when your little guy (or girl) has the jaw strength of a viper on the attack and latches onto any other area of your breast in a frenzy to eat.

3. Breastfeeding is great. Until you realize that every goddamn thing you eat gives your baby screaming, painful, constant gas. So you cut out broccoli....then peppers....then onions....then chocolate (yes, taking chocolate from a post-partum woman is almost worse than stealing her child)....then tomato products.....then dairy. And once you cut out all of that and are left with plain grilled chicken and plain baked potatoes and your only deliciousness during the day is soy based ice cream (yum, wild berry Tofutti) and the doctor tells you to cut out soy too. WTF?!

4. Breastfeeding is great. But if you have a c-section, that means both you and hubs are up every 2 hours all night long for at least the first week. If, like me, you had complications, it is more like four weeks. It makes for two very tired, cranky parents. I don't think anyone got as close to divorce from breastfeeding as we did but I just wasn't sure how to draft the Complaint.....

5. After you have a baby, people want to come to the hospital. Lay the ground rules WAY in advance. Otherwise, you will be recovering from birth in a half-snapped hospital johnny with much of your goods on display with a room full of people that don't know enough to leave you alone. I kid you not, BB was born at 11:50 a.m. By 2:00 p.m., there were four people other than me, HB and BB crammed into my room. By 6:00 p.m., four more had arrived. Yes, folks, the original four were still there plus four more for a total of ten adults and one baby until far past what would be considered normal visiting hours. This made sleeping after major surgery difficult to say the least. I found myself almost in tears, praying that the nurse would come in and rescue me and kick everyone out.

Monday, November 30, 2009

End of the Hiatus

Over the last fourteen weeks, blogging has been taking a backseat to other things in my life. Well, really just one other thing that currently weighs thirteen pounds and whose smiles light up my life. BB was born on August 22nd weighing in at a whopping 8 pounds, 15 ounces. I will save the gruesome details for a later blog but, suffice to say, my recovery was a tad more difficult than the average. But I am back and ready to update you on the goings-on here in the FC.

So what's changed, you ask? Well, just about everything, some things for the better, others for the worse. We don't sleep much around here anymore which leaves me slightly less able to share my acerbic wit. But, joy of joys, wine has returned as a nightly visitor! It helps me sleep through my nightly obsession with the video monitor for "is he breathing?" checks on the half-hour. I think MD thinks I am a bit nuts but I can't help it. All these darn SIDS warnings are making mommies these days far more paranoid. I can't tell you how many times I heard, "I don't know how I raised you kids to adulthood" because apparently we slept on our stomachs, bounced around in the car without seats and played with various knives and prescription medications. All no-no's today.

I went back to work at the same job. I think I surprised everyone by actually coming back since they turned off my security badge and people are constantly giving me looks that say "what the hell are you doing here?" Good news is that D was fired while I was out - about damn time. Bad news is the number of times attorneys have said "You had a baby? I didn't even know you were pregnant." Was I really that fat before that you didn't notice the extra 25 pregnancy pounds which included close to nine pounds of baby? Really? Or are you just too into yourself to notice other people? I like to think it is the second...... With D and Roots both gone, I will have to find a new object for condescension but, since I work for the state, that really shouldn't be too difficult.

Stay tuned.......Many, many more blogs and pictures to come.


Friday, October 2, 2009

Cure JM - Happy Birthday Rhonda!

Kevin of Always Home and Uncool has asked me to post this as part of his effort to raise awareness in the blogosphere of juvenile myositis, a rare autoimmune disease his daughter was diagnosed with on this day seven years ago. The day also happens to be his wife's birthday.

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Our pediatrician admitted it early on.

The rash on our 2-year-old daughter's cheeks, joints and legs was something he'd never seen before.

The next doctor wouldn't admit to not knowing.

He rattled off the names of several skins conditions -- none of them seemingly worth his time or bedside manner -- then quickly prescribed antibiotics and showed us the door.

The third doctor admitted she didn't know much.

The biopsy of the chunk of skin she had removed from our daughter's knee showed signs of an "allergic reaction" even though we had ruled out every allergy source -- obvious and otherwise -- that we could.

The fourth doctor had barely closed the door behind her when, looking at the limp blonde cherub in my lap, she admitted she had seen this before. At least one too many times before.

She brought in a gaggle of med students. She pointed out each of the physical symptoms in our daughter:

The rash across her face and temples resembling the silhouette of a butterfly.

The purple-brown spots and smears, called heliotrope, on her eyelids.

The reddish alligator-like skin, known as Gottron papules, covering the knuckles of her hands.

The onset of crippling muscle weakness in her legs and upper body.

She then had an assistant bring in a handful of pages photocopied from an old medical textbook. She handed them to my wife, whose birthday it happened to be that day.

This was her gift -- a diagnosis for her little girl.

That was seven years ago -- Oct. 2, 2002 -- the day our daughter was found to have juvenile dermatomyositis, one of a family of rare autoimmune diseases that can have debilitating and even fatal consequences when not treated quickly and effectively.

Our daughter's first year with the disease consisted of surgical procedures, intravenous infusions, staph infections, pulmonary treatments and worry. Her muscles were too weak for her to walk or swallow solid food for several months. When not in the hospital, she sat on our living room couch, propped up by pillows so she wouldn't tip over, as medicine or nourishment dripped from a bag into her body.

Our daughter, Thing 1, Megan, now age 9, remembers little of that today when she dances or sings or plays soccer. All that remain with her are scars, six to be exact, and the array of pills she takes twice a day to help keep the disease at bay.

What would have happened if it took us more than two months and four doctors before we lucked into someone who could piece all the symptoms together? I don't know.

I do know that the fourth doctor, the one who brought in others to see our daughter's condition so they could easily recognize it if they ever had the misfortune to be presented with it again, was a step toward making sure other parents also never have to find out.

That, too, is my purpose today.

It is also my birthday gift to my wife, My Love, Rhonda, for all you have done these past seven years to make others aware of juvenile myositis diseases and help find a cure for them once and for all.

To read more about children and families affected by juvenile myositis diseases, visit Cure JM Foundation at www.curejm.org.

To make a tax-deductible donation toward JM research, go to www.firstgiving.com/rhondaandkevinmckeever or www.curejm.com/team/donations.htm.

Thursday, October 1, 2009

Baby News to Come!

I know, I know my last post was a long time ago. But, guess what? It was on the day I was admitted to the hospital to have BB and I have been a tad busy since then. So I am allowing my friend Kevin to hijack my blog tomorrow in an effort to cure an illness from which his daughter is currently suffering. As soon as BB gets on a better schedule, we will resume our regularly scheduled programming!

Friday, August 21, 2009

Food Friday - Garden Catering

I have the best OB/GYNs ever. How does that relate to food you ask? Well, Dr. Cahill and HB always seem to get onto the topic of food while I have my appointments. Nevermind my questions regarding baby size and epidurals....where to get the best burger or cheapest chicken is the topic. During one such conversation, Cahill mentioned Garden Catering and the High School Special.

Since then, HB and I have been going to GC about once a week for takeout. Their chicken nuggets are homemade, all white meat and very lightly breaded. French fries are likely not homemade but are still fantastic. The best thing though, besides the cost which is around $6 for a huge meal, is the potato cones. They are small clumps of fried mashed potato goodness. YUM! Onion rings are also a good option.

I order mine without the special seasoning since it is salty and I am trying to keep my blood pressure down but HB loves the special seasoning. And it all comes with a soda. Two thumbs up :) Thanks Dr. Cahill!

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

View From the Top

Over the past five weeks, my stomach has grown exponentially. I thought I would share the view.....Oh, and that is my new kitchen floor thanks to DD and Uncle Glenn.....



A Call to Action - Help Cure JM

What follows in an email from my friend Kevin a.k.a. Always Home and Uncool. He is a great local guy whose daughter is suffering from a debilitating disease that gets very little recognition but which affects many children throughout the country. He also writes one of the funniest stay at home dad blogs out there so check him out! Let's help him make October 2nd Cure JM Day by donating our blogs for that day in support!



Blogging Comrades:

I would like to ask for your help in a matter near to me.

October 2 is a tough day for My Love. Not only is it my wife's birthday, but it is also the seventh anniversary of the day our daughter (Thing 1 to you, Megan to us) was diagnosed with juvenile dermatomyositis, a rare autoimmune disease that can have life-threatening consequences.

We have been lucky for the most part. In 2002, after two months of stumbling through the offices of several baffled dermatologists and pediatricians, we found a doctor who recognized what our girl had the instant she laid eyes on her. Within a few more weeks, we found the leading U.S. expert in the disease who started an aggressive treatment that we believe turned our daughter's quality of life toward the better.

Today, Megan is doing quite well -- not in remission yet, but getting closer and otherwise most any other 9-year-old girl you might happen to meet. Others haven't been as fortunate. Many children we've met over the years still battle with heavy doses of immunosuppressants or struggle with related complications. A few have even died.

This October 2, I'm hoping to mark the day by increasing the blogosphere's awareness of this disease. My aim is to get as many blogs as possible to post a piece that I will write about the disease and how it has affected our family (I've written several before -- if you need to refresh your memory, read this).

The post will include a link for people to donate to Cure JM, the fully grassroots nonprofit My Love (October 2 is her birthday, remember) currently chairs. Cure JM is a 100-percent volunteer organization that funds medical research into the cause, treatment and eventual cure of juvenile myositis, juvenile dermatomyositis and their variants. The group also offers family support opportunities to help JM children, their parents, friends and relatives cope with the disease. To date, we are more than halfway to this year's fundraising goal of $500,000, nearly all of which goes directly to JM doctors to pay for research fellowships, specialized lab equipment and fund studies.

If you are interested in having your blog participate on Oct. 2, drop me a reply line and I'll add you onto the master mailing list. If you're not, also drop a line so I can stop pestering you.

If you know of other bloggers who may be interested in participating, forward this on to them and have them e-mail me.

Thanks.

Kevin (alwayshomeanduncool@gmail.com)

"Always Home and Uncool" (http://www.blogonkevin.blogspot.com)

Tuesday, August 18, 2009

Maternity Leave

It's official - I am on maternity leave. Today is day two. I am bored.

Yesterday, in the 94 degree heat, I went for a pedicure and to the grocery store since the cupboards were bare. Then I came home, ate lunch, cleaned up the piles and piles of dust from HB's excursion into painting the kitchen this weekend and made three quiches. That pretty much too up until 5:30 at which time I attended a web seminar on student loan forgiveness for those employed in the public sector. I figured out in the first ten minutes that I didn't qualify but kept listening because hey, what else did I have to do? Now I am an expert on something I will never need to know. Questions? Ask me!

Today, in the rapidly approaching 95 degree heat, I ate quiche, went to the post office and grocery store and spent well over an hour messing around on Facebook. Oh, and I called two of the three daycare places where we are on waiting lists to determine if there was a shot of BB getting daycare before he turns ten. Luckily, the economy might be working in our favor as people are taking their kids out of daycare due to lost employment left and right. What can I say? I am very mercenary when it comes to the daycare issues.

Now what? I am officially 39 weeks pregnant today and MD isn't here yet so I can't possibly have the baby. Does anyone have a kitchen I can rearrange? Maybe some drawers to sort through? If I wasn't afraid of falling off the ladder, I would paint the trim in the kitchen but I am afraid and lots of people would yell at me so that's out. Are you bored reading this post? Imagine how bored I am living it!

Perhaps I will set my mind on finding a pool to swim in where no one can see my gigantic self....or at least no one who I care about or will ever see again. Floating for a while would be nice......

Monday, July 27, 2009

Pictures of the Baby

So, as a result of having to have an early amnio on little BB to make sure he was genetically sound (bad thing), I get to go to a high risk doctor (Dr. Viscarello - he is the best around if you need one - LOVE LOVE LOVE him) on a regular basis for my ultrasounds (good thing). This means I get to see BB as often as every two weeks although I have managed to force myself to keep it to once a month.

Best thing about Dr. V's office? They have the BEST ultrasound equipment of any doctor around. They do 3D and 4D, they measure blood flows, they zoom, tint pictures sepia colored, etc. Amazing! MD said her ultrasounds were like Etch-a-Sketch. This is my latest.....




Look, he is waving at you!

Saturday, July 25, 2009

Bad Habits

So, instead of blogging, I have been cleaning and organizing and generally getting ready for BB....oh and harassing HB to do the same since bending in any manner is pretty much out of the question at this point which means any time I drop something, I have to holler for him to come and pick it up. Right now he is sleeping but, have no fear, the hollering will start soon.

All of this has led me to the conclusion that now is the time to fix HB's bad habits because, well, it isn't as if I have much else going on. I don't know if anyone else has the same husband problems (I only know MD doesn't because DD is very diligent) but I have to ask HB about 8 or 9 times to do something before it gets done. And I am not talking about huge things for the most part.....refilling the washer fluid in my car (yes, I can do this myself but I try and give HB the "man" jobs), putting those little sticky felt pads on the bottoms of the chair and table legs, bringing down the empty water jugs from the bubbler.....you get the point.

A few years ago, when I complained about this and that I could just do it myself in the time I spend reminding him (usually minimum of 5 times over a week or so), he said that I should get some bright pink post-it notes and put them on the things he needs to do. Um, HB? That means I am creating more work for me.....not a solution. So we bought him a little notebook for his pocket so that when I asked him to do something, he could write it down in the notebook and check it at the end of the day before bed to see if he did everything. Great idea right? Wrong! He started using it for work "to-do" items as well and then exclusively.

So now, and I hate to admit this, I am a nagger. World class. Five star. And as much as I didn't and don't want to be a nagger, there is a reason wives around the world have been doing it for hundreds of years. Nagging works.